We have had the pleasure of working with some terrific brides. One of the first things we see and are asked about when first meeting with our brides, is about the Save the Dates. “Should we get cards, magnets, or what about Postcards? When should we send them out? Do I need to include the wording “and guest” when addressing them?”
We are going to answer these questions and provide a little guideline and etiquette to have when starting to prepare your save the dates!
First things first, When should you send out save the dates, and why you should send them at all.
Save the Dates have become increasingly popular in wedding stationery. Destination weddings and three day weekend weddings have set the standard for sending save the dates. As a courtesy to your guests, especially out of towners; Save the Dates provide them with ample amount of time to plan accordingly to come celebrate with you.
For destination weddings, the normal time frame to send out save the dates is up to eight months before the big day. This allows guest to have time to make arrangements, ask off of work if need be, find flights, and figure out accommodations. With a normal wedding ceremony and reception; typically six months before is the best time to send out save the dates to family and friends.
Next we will talk about theme. The theme of your save the dates is where you can really have fun. You can coordinate them to match what invitations you are wanting, or you can go completely unique and make them something as different and unique as possible. We have seen a wide variety of save the dates in our field and while we do love the uniqueness of some, we love the magnets, cards and postcards the best!
No matter what theme you are looking to go for, all save the dates have key wording elements they must include:
*Names of couple getting hitched
*It should state the fact that you are getting married (some people may think it’s a regular party invite)
*Date of the Wedding
*Location of the wedding (City and State, or Country)
* The words “Formal invitation to follow”
A Save the Date wording No No is putting where the couple is registered at on the save the date or invitation. In our field we see this a lot, and if you are going by the rules of etiquette, putting the registry on the save the date or wedding invitation is considered rude. Now, we are here just to inform and give you a guide, so if you want to include your registry then by all means it is your day to do what you wish!
Save the Dates are the first impression your wedding has on your guests. If you want them to be aware of how formal it is expected to be, the wording you use when you address your guests envelopes plays a huge factor. If you are planning an informal ceremony and reception you can address the envelopes using first and last names. If you are stepping it up to more of a formal affair you would need to include Mr or Mrs. This gets lots of respect points for your older generation that will attend with this type of addressing.
When addressing the names, Guests who are allowed a plus one can get kind of tricky. Normally the bridal party is allowed a plus one along with anyone who has a spouse, fiancé, or have been in a relationship for over a year. Once again it is your big day, so If you want to have any of your friends and family to bring a plus one make sure you write “And Guest” after their names on the envelope.
When you send out save the dates to your guests, make sure you are hitting everyone who is expected to be there as well as family and friends you would like to come. Even though your bridal party should know they are supposed to be there, out of respect they should receive a save the date.
Hope this has been helpful and if you have any questions over wording etiquette please do not hesitate to get a hold of us!
The PaperSnaps Crew